When a family member dies, it is important not to keep these 4 items

 This detail may seem trivial, almost poetic: a clock frozen at the time of departure. However, in many traditions, this powerful symbol represents a standstill in time… which can unconsciously prevent you from moving forward.

Why avoid keeping it?

A frozen clock can unconsciously block your own progress in grief. It becomes a constant reminder of the precise moment of loss, freezing the emotion instead of letting it evolve. It’s more soothing to restart it… or to gently let it go.

Medicines and medical devices

When illness has been a part of the end of life, there are often boxes of medications left over, a blood pressure monitor, bandages, a pill organizer… We sometimes keep them “just in case” or because we don’t dare throw them away.

Why part with them?

These objects carry the memory of suffering and fragility. They are strongly linked to a trying time and can continue to affect the atmosphere of a home without us realizing it. Disposing of them carefully (at a pharmacy, for example) also helps lighten the emotional atmosphere in the home.

Sheets, pillows, or very intimate clothing

Keeping a scarf, a sweater, a notebook… why not? But sleeping in the same sheets the person used or wearing their underwear (even washed) is another matter.

Why avoid these objects?

They retain a very physical imprint of the deceased. For some people, this may seem comforting… but for others, it creates an attachment that’s difficult to overcome. If these objects rekindle sadness or restless sleep, it may be a sign that it’s time to part with them.

Biological remains: hair, teeth, nails

In the past, people sometimes kept a locket of hair, or a baby tooth, as a childhood memento. But in the context of grief, these items can have a completely different meaning.

Why might this be disturbing?

These physical “remains” are symbolically very powerful. They can maintain a very tangible connection to a deceased person, which sometimes makes emotional separation more difficult. Not to mention the potential discomfort for other family members.

So, what can we keep?

The good news is that some objects become true pillars of memory. A favorite book, a smiling photo, a handwritten letter… All these objects that make you feel good, that bring back sweet and bright memories, are precious. They warm the heart instead of freezing it.

The important thing is not the quantity, but the quality of the memory you choose to preserve. Ask yourself: does this object help me remember with tenderness… or remain frozen in pain?

Because sometimes, saying goodbye to an object is a big step towards inner peace.